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Borderline
Personality Disorder (BPD) — A usually
incurable mental illness where a person is unable to
regulate their own emotions due to a fundamental deficit of
core self-esteem.
BPD could be the world's most destructive, pervasive and misunderstood mental disorder. It is probably responsible for more cases in Family Court than any other.
In fact, the underlying mechanisms may help explain nearly every every
case in Family Court, since most juvenile crimes,
abuse/neglect cases and contested divorces boil down to a lack of
emotional control in at least one of the parties.
The term "borderline" is meaningless, and
you may prefer to call it "Blame-shifting Personality
Disorder." Because their ego is so fragile, Borderlines
accept little or no responsiblity for their own feelings and
actions; instead, they blame outside forces for everything bad that
happens to them and every shameful thing that they themselves do.
Without any intellectual "circuit breakers" to curb their
emotions,
their lives become emotional chaos in the presence of
any stress.
They complain a lot, get in a lot of
fights, fall for any slick salesman
who claims to serve their needs, and
consistantly sabotage themselves by misjudging the reactions
of others. They are frequent victims of paranoia and all of its
destructive effects, while they often lack the "common sense"
that the rest of us take for granted.
By the official diagnostic criteria,
Borderlines compose about 2% of the general population and a
much higher percentage of prison inmates and spousal
abusers. If you loosen the
criteria a bit, then Borderlines are everywhere, in
every large workplace, school and government bureaucracy.
They may be pleasant to meet at first, but eventually they
become hell to get along with, especially if you attempt
intimacy or become dependent on them.
BPD is hard to describe if you haven't witnessed it
close-up—which you probably have. No doubt you have had
the displeasure of dealing with a Borderline at some point
in your career, education or romantic history.
You probably found it
profoundly unsettling because they blamed you for problems
and tensions that they themselves created.
Give a
Borderline some power over you and submit him to some
moderate stress, and he will probably become an
asshole (a scientific term that
will be defined later).
Once a person starts blaming the outside world for
everything that goes on inside them, a whole range of
destructive effects may follow, from dramatic mood swings
and overreaction to stress to suicide threats and open
violence. The borderline is engaged in a desperate struggle
to demand from the world that which the world cannot give
him: inner self-worth.
Because they
accept little responsibility for their own actions,
Borderlines cannot independently
resolve their interpersonal problems, so
a court often has to do it for them. Contested divorces usually
involve at least one Borderline party, and when there are
two, you can have a truly epic legal battle limited only by
the available funding. Borderlines often become domestic
abusers and are easily drawn into drug abuse, providing
ample cliental for the TPO and abuse/neglect systems. As
parents, they can inflict enormous damage on their children
by devaluing and demeaning them, often in subtle and
pernicious ways that do not violate any law. Thereby, they
turn out a steady stream of clients for the Juvenile Justice
and adult court systems.
It's a fun disorder, and I hope you will
come to appreciate it as much as I do. Embracing it,
understanding it and even finding sympathy for the victim
are more effective than pretending it doesn't exist, which
is the usual attitude of society and most of Family
Services.
“Nice choice to use masculine pronouns when 75% of BPDs are female :-)”
— Steve 2/9/07
“I believe that my father has a mild version of the disorder as a result I've had it since I was a child. I don't think there's ever been a time in which I didn't have it. I dont consider myself an abuser. We really do experience a lot of things as though we were the victims. And even then I'm more inclined to harming myself. I have huge guilt issues. So when I do something wrong (because of splitting) I either feel nothing or feel as if though I'm responsible for everything wrong in this world. I just thought I'd elaborate. The last part was touching though I wouldn't call this fun! But I suppose that from a purely scientific perspective that it is rather interesting. Anyway.....take care.”
— Rose 4/9/07
“I was innocent and naive before, and cynical and depressed after six years thinking a person with BPD was my best friend -- and finding out that while I was being his friend, he was slowly killing me. Two months after I left him, I was put directly under a BP at work. I thought I was going to keel over from the stress! They're like an asshole glued to a wounded heart - a victim and a victimizer all in one package.”
— Luke 4/23/07 ... RESPONSE
FROM THE WEBMASTER:
Good observation!
—G.C.
“I had a long on-again-off-again with a girl/woman/child for 4 long hurtfull years. She recently contacted me, out of the blue, after 5 absent years, I guess she ran out of options. Within 2 months, she split and went from loving everything about me, to hating my guts. I had no choice but to get rid of her, eventhough she tried to hang on by any means. They never change their colors. It is what it is. They are what they are. They WILL kill you, with their ignorance, arrogance, indifference and self-serving idiocy. It is impossible to see a "person" because there is none. They parot other's words and actions to "fit" you. You might think they are your friend if you don't expect anything in return.”
— ken 9/14/07
“I know a BPD previous friend as hes an asshole gotten worse will not get help beats verbally abuses his girlfriend and blames all his problems on London, On in Canada the city I am in always" this city sucks no one has any respect and also on that line if someone disagrees with what he says he blows up and starts going on about disrespect "oh you disrespect me" or goes on I am greek to everyone except for the fact his Birth certificate has Ontario, Canada on it his background is Greek and hes racist as hell , to put it simply hes a fucktard asshole”
— Anonymous 4/24/08
“I am a supervisor of an individual who has BP. she has slowly torn our tightknit team apart. She always sees herself as the victim as well as the Savior. not once has she ever taken responsibility for her actions. having a conversation with her is like nails on a chalk board! I'm not sure how much longer I can stomach her. I find myself avoiding her at all cost. My interactions are brief and factual. She is an emotional vampire!”
— Terrified Supervisor 5/14/08 ... RESPONSE
FROM THE WEBMASTER:
Yup! She's one of them! I wish there was some easy advice I could give you. All I can say is that there is absolutely no hope in "working with" her. She must leave for your workgroup to be restored. In the absense of strong management willing to fire her, she might do it herself. If she feels everyone is working against her, she could quit in a rage, claiming sexual harassment, etc. If she doesn't leave, then you should.
—G.C.
“My Mother is BPD. She's an unlovable, joy-sucking black hole. She's a liar, a user, a bully and makes life Hell for her family. Like they say, it's those close to a Borderline that really suffer from the disease.”
— Anonymous 5/15/08
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Borderline
Personality Disorder (BPD) — A usually
incurable mental illness where a person is unable to
regulate their own emotions due to a fundamental deficit of
core self-esteem.
